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Enigma.. - 17 Oct, 2023 - 08:26PM

Ps…
I too would like to contact someone on a daily basis.
But… sometimes it’s not always possible 😕🤷🏼‍♀️.
Just saying 💋

Enigma.. - 17 Oct, 2023 - 08:22PM

I know that communication can be difficult, at times, for me and others.
I don’t have access to my mobile during working hour’s“security”… bet that’s got you all wondering what I do for a living lol 😉.
I’m, very obviously, not going to use the company’s IPads or laptops, shared by several work colleagues, to sent messages via the site, email or WhatsApp etc…
I can only speak for myself, and I’m always upfront about this, I’ll message when I can 😊.
I’ll explain the situation and then it’s up to the male.
Everybody on this site has different circumstances home, family, job etc… wise.

Forbidden-Fruit - 17 Oct, 2023 - 08:09PM

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a stalker but I like to text my partner on a daily basis and during the day if possible granted sometimes it’s not always possible like a team meeting, family etc. but it’s definitely a nice distraction or receive a sexy message from your partner. I have learned from being here, be upfront and set/agree on boundaries and how like to communicate in between meets.

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Paula99 - 17 Oct, 2023 - 07:49PM

If you want to get anywhere …you have to text to keep the prospective affair alive

I prefer to keep in contact and a message or two every day is ok …sometimes we can’t message and I do understand……

If you are not comfortable with texting then tell your affair….but keep the lines of communication open..

Remember we like to be kept in the loop…🧐

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Legs&Eyes - 17 Oct, 2023 - 07:47PM

Bobby224 - 17 Oct, 2023 - 07:29PM

Shame you're so far away from Yorkshire! Lol....

Legs&Eyes - 17 Oct, 2023 - 07:39PM

TheBoredHousewife - 17 Oct, 2023 - 06:54PM


Yes! Agree!

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Bobby224 - 17 Oct, 2023 - 07:29PM

Daily messaging is a absolute must for me! Obviously there will be occasions where this not possible such as holidays, weddings etc, but as a rule on a normal day it’s a must. I’m positive that, that’s the reason my two long term affairs worked.

I know it’s old hat now and lots of you will disagree but e-mail is where I feel safe and confident. Logging in during the day and seeing a surprise message is great! We could message whenever we wanted knowing it was 100% safe that our partners could not see the message. We also had certain times of day we just mailed exactly the same as texting bouncing off each other. It’s a complete must for me, daily contact, it keeps you both close between meets.

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Pink Eiga - 17 Oct, 2023 - 06:54PM

I’m an avid texter, and if someone has spent the time chatting to get the meet, then I would expect a similar level of engagement post meet if things are to proceed to the next level.

I’m afraid my attention span is short. Daily checkins is what I expect. Granted not everybody has the time to do hours every day, but perhaps an agreed time set aside to virtually keep in touch between meets might help. It’s worked for me anyway.

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1408586 - 17 Oct, 2023 - 05:21PM

I find men with very full time jobs and very young kids have so little time or headspace for the communication and messaging of affairs. But maybe I’m just making excuses for them 🤷‍♀️

I’m interested in people agreeing messaging frequency upfront! I tend to be quite laid back entering into something new but next time (if and when!!) maybe I should be more upfront about things. Do you dump if your agreed boundaries are breached? It’s so hard when there’s established chemistry…

Legs&Eyes - 17 Oct, 2023 - 05:09PM

I like messaging, both sending and receiving... its part of the secret excitement for me - and Im a huge texter anyway in general...
And yes agree that the amount of contact and when etc needs agreeing up front in this scenario...

But lets face it, if a guy's saying to me he has zero intimacy at home, has a 'friend-zone relationship only, sexy-time ended some years ago, if there's no bedtime fun, all communication is about putting the bins out, the food-shop and who's on the school-run..
then honestly, somehow finding the time to swap a couple of sexy messages a day with me could remind someone that they are still alive after all.... and keeps it all fresh and zingy! Lol....

Personal view only of course!

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