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ExoticOrchid - 24 Sep, 2024 - 09:14AM

PE - 09:08PM

Perfectly articulated, thank you!

Sad that there are people here with such backwards mindset.

Pink Eiga - 23 Sep, 2024 - 09:08PM

boav91 - 23 Sep, 2024 - 07:10PM

I’m not sure I’d lump every relationship where one party foots the room bill as being unequal and a source of tension. And….unable to go long term! The financial decisions between couples is their business. But just because one person pays for the room doesn’t mean they begrudge it, nor does it mean things are unequal, for equality can be achieved in other ways, not just monetary, and certainly not in a ‘transactional’ sort of way.

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boav91 - 23 Sep, 2024 - 07:10PM

So would I want to be a kept man, I guess for the short term but then the reality is would I feel obliged to always do what the other person wanted and if I wanted more than my body ravaged on a regular basis and needed mental stimulation would I crave wanting to have more control by paying

Nah let’s stay a kept man ;)

I think what I was trying to say was if you want a longer term relationship and not just a fling it works better with equality. If you don’t have that the imbalance I find can be a source of tension even if unspoken

I like balance and trust in all things for a longer term situation but not necessarily for a fling.

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Life is a beach - 23 Sep, 2024 - 12:01PM

Where is the edit button when you need it!
I meant to say, after a couple of dates, it is nice to offer to go halves
In answer to the original post
Day rooms are great. First date I would say the man should pay,. Any more afterwards, it's a nice thing for the lady to either offer to go halves or get lunch or dinner that is if you have time for that haha 😉

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Paula99 - 23 Sep, 2024 - 11:14AM

For the boys..😉

So who dosent like the idea of being a ‘kept’ man ?

Life is a beach - 23 Sep, 2024 - 10:28AM

LadyDe,
I feel exactly the same as you do. Also I know what you mean about sofas 😉.
After having talked to a few of the men here, I see that some women have tried asking men to pay for travel expenses if they want a date. The men have run a mile!. Some of these women are scammers.
Pink Elga,
I see your point 🙂. It is a controversial subject, some will agree and disagree on this.
In my opinion , at the beginning, yes, men should pay for the hotel, I would still offer offer to get lunch but that's me haha.
I am now in a long term relationship with my IE, we see each other often. I would feel bad letting him pay all the time.
I wouldn't feel like a commodity but I personally strongly believe in feeling independent and always offer to go halves. I don't have to but want to. This has meant going to some very nice places together and we both enjoy the different experiences.
We are all different. Others may not feel the same way as I do.
I think after a couple of dates, it is nice to offer to go ha

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Pink Eiga - 22 Sep, 2024 - 12:30PM

boav91 - 22 Sep, 2024 - 07:42AM

Many IE couples split the bill, and your IE wants to show that she is with you because she longs and craves for your body and your company.

I have never encountered a man who would ever see himself as a sexual commodity that a woman has paid for, unless he is in the business providing those services.

Question for you, and perhaps for the other men - would you feel exploited or treated like a commodity if a woman lusted after your body and offered to pay for all the room meets? 🤔

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bluemountain2024 - 22 Sep, 2024 - 11:37AM

Yep yep, Dayuse website is the way to go. If you’re combining sex and “working from home”, it works a treat!! On the cost, we tend to alternate who pays to keep it fair and balanced.

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boav91 - 22 Sep, 2024 - 07:42AM

So we have used a variety of approaches. Dayuse is great as everyone says and we have had some amazing experiences and memories with that too. Whole days in rooms in special hotels just adds to the memories created. Travel lodge vary in price where you go but have early check in and if we are meeting after normal check in time just any room in any hotel but put the keys on the counter having prepaid and walk out. No one seems to really care, they just look at you and it like ah well.

My ie and I share the cost. She insisted and I love that because I don’t feel exploited. It is a mutual affair so why should the man pay for it all. I don’t expect her to pay but she wants to. It means we are equal in the relationship. Whether you like it or not if one side pays for it all the other person runs the risk of being seen as a commodity and if that is how people want to be seen as something they are selling or being paid to do, not sure that is an affair. I had that before and ran a mile. Controversial, maybe

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LadyDe - 21 Sep, 2024 - 10:08PM

I’m an independent woman, so we go alternate for paying and mostly use dayuse .. mmm a sofa is an added bonus, think we’ve sussed it now 😈

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