Am I just panicking or should I be concerned?
I’ve been chatting to a guy on here since last October, and wanted to meet him, but due to a family bereavement on his side, a meet hasn’t happened yet.
Recently I’ve really wanted to meet him, but when I mention he says he can’t, as he’s too flakey and concentrating on his family. He has a habit of going awol from chats for weeks at a time, with no word, then comes back, and expects me to be ok about that.
This week he finally decided that he’s like to meet, but I’m worried about the circumstances. The hotel he’s picked is near his workplace, but a 40min drive for me, he doesn’t want to meet for a drink first, just go straight for sex. He’s picked the day, but hasn’t even asked me if it’s convenient for me.
My intuition is telling me to be careful, but I’m not sure if I’m just nervous, as this would be my first affair.
Could anyone that has more experience offer and guidance or gut feelings on this one?
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Sultrybelle - 14 Mar, 2022 - 08:49PM
I've just read your update. Good for you, always follow your intution on here - never ignore or rush! The right one for you is somewhere on here :)
BW,
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Jfletch15 - 11 Mar, 2022 - 11:56PM
Go with your gut feeling. If you feel somethings not right then don’t do it because there will be something wrong. Keep going you’ll meet the right person soon.
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1469532 - 11 Mar, 2022 - 06:17PM
Block him now. He’s admitted he’s a flake and it looks like he wants to make no effort. Don’t let him take your self respect
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EmnEm123 - 08 Mar, 2022 - 10:26PM
Vanilla Alternative has said she is the OP.
She is not meeting the guy.
Can we stop this now. Full stop.
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Classy11 - 08 Mar, 2022 - 09:17PM
Could just be he's taken cold feet before.
Jumping straight to sex is a big leap and a lot of pressure. What if you don't like him, or vice versa?
Pay attention to your gut feeling.
M x
1117169 - 08 Mar, 2022 - 02:43PM
@Cal_1980.
It sounds like the offer is there but the problem is that he is faffing about making it happen, deliberately or otherwise.
Cal_1980 - 08 Mar, 2022 - 12:02PM
Chatting since October and you're meeting now......I think you have your answer right there. I'm writing this as a married man whos cheating on he's wife on here. He only wants sex and will tell you whatever you want to hear to get it.
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1117169 - 06 Mar, 2022 - 09:50PM
@Paula99
Different beasts altogether I would say.
1117169 - 06 Mar, 2022 - 06:34PM
@ Paula99
That definition seems to apply to online interactions though. By that definition almost everyone on here is a " Player"
Most, I think, regard a " Player" as someone who goes beyond that and is actually dating multiple partners but pretending exclusivity to each one.
The guy that the OP referred to, sounds like he does not have a clue and is playing at adultery.
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