Am I just panicking or should I be concerned?
I’ve been chatting to a guy on here since last October, and wanted to meet him, but due to a family bereavement on his side, a meet hasn’t happened yet.
Recently I’ve really wanted to meet him, but when I mention he says he can’t, as he’s too flakey and concentrating on his family. He has a habit of going awol from chats for weeks at a time, with no word, then comes back, and expects me to be ok about that.
This week he finally decided that he’s like to meet, but I’m worried about the circumstances. The hotel he’s picked is near his workplace, but a 40min drive for me, he doesn’t want to meet for a drink first, just go straight for sex. He’s picked the day, but hasn’t even asked me if it’s convenient for me.
My intuition is telling me to be careful, but I’m not sure if I’m just nervous, as this would be my first affair.
Could anyone that has more experience offer and guidance or gut feelings on this one?
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Paula99 - 05 Mar, 2022 - 04:05PM
Player....
A guy/Woman who talks or flirts with a few girls/guys at the same time and goes from one to another because he/she can't get enough of one.
Urban dictionary...😁
1117169 - 05 Mar, 2022 - 02:02PM
@ Enigma
I guess its how one defines a " Player"
Enigma.. - 05 Mar, 2022 - 10:21AM
@Vannilla Alternative
Forget him… his loss. Don’t your waste time on men like that. Hold your head up high and move on.
As we Scottish say… “What a fanny” lol.
I’ll wish you all the best and good luck. Take care.
Peaches1 - 03 Mar, 2022 - 11:49PM
Vanilla Alternative - 03 Mar, 2022 - 10:23PM
Well done and good for you. Unfortunately there are quite a few people like that. Brush yourself down and swiftly move on. Hopefully you will meet someone who is genuinely seeking the same as you. Good luck sweetie x
ExoticOrchid - 03 Mar, 2022 - 11:17PM
VA - 10:23PM
Thank you for coming back with the update ... glad all our "advice" was helpful ... stay strong in your resolve and be sure to block and delete his details too. This is one instance where blocking is fully justified!
All the best.
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Pink Eiga - 03 Mar, 2022 - 10:44PM
@Vanilla Alternative
I had a similar disappearing act from someone who I’d been talking on and off to for a while. These people are really not worth our time. Hope you have managed to engage with others who are more deserving of you.
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1505045 - 03 Mar, 2022 - 10:23PM
Thank you to everyone that’s taken time to give advice, I appreciate this and have taken it on board.
Update, we haven’t met as funnily enough it was supposed to be tomorrow, and he’s disappeared again without making the final arrangements.
Pleased to say I’ve finally seen the light and am no longer taking to him, neither will I meet him in future.
Feel sad as chatting for 5 months and thought we had grown close, oh how wrong you can be!
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Sobers800 - 02 Mar, 2022 - 07:46PM
Always go with your gut.. he doesn't seem like the one for your to give up your first affair cherry..
How about you text me ;)
Keeping my cheekiness aside.. it's like being in highschool again..
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