Am I just panicking or should I be concerned?
I’ve been chatting to a guy on here since last October, and wanted to meet him, but due to a family bereavement on his side, a meet hasn’t happened yet.
Recently I’ve really wanted to meet him, but when I mention he says he can’t, as he’s too flakey and concentrating on his family. He has a habit of going awol from chats for weeks at a time, with no word, then comes back, and expects me to be ok about that.
This week he finally decided that he’s like to meet, but I’m worried about the circumstances. The hotel he’s picked is near his workplace, but a 40min drive for me, he doesn’t want to meet for a drink first, just go straight for sex. He’s picked the day, but hasn’t even asked me if it’s convenient for me.
My intuition is telling me to be careful, but I’m not sure if I’m just nervous, as this would be my first affair.
Could anyone that has more experience offer and guidance or gut feelings on this one?
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Paula99 - 02 Mar, 2022 - 02:41PM
So it's not over until the fat lady sings..x š
I just think we have wasted enough brain function on some guy who is a total arsehole.
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1117169 - 02 Mar, 2022 - 01:55PM
@Paula99
If you have just spray painted a valuable classic car, waiting to see how the finish turns out is probably quite nerve wracking. š
( There is always an alternative point of view)
Paula99 - 02 Mar, 2022 - 01:04PM
Its time to bin this topic now...rather talk about golf and that's like watching paint dry..š¤
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Mad World - 02 Mar, 2022 - 11:13AM
Theyāve definitely done the dirty deed and laughing at all the fuss and furore they created.
I wish them all the best of health and happiness
Amen šš¼
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1497533 - 02 Mar, 2022 - 10:39AM
OP please come back and give us an update. So many posts on here are like reading a book and the last page has been ripped out.
1509010 - 01 Mar, 2022 - 05:48PM
Have you given this man any indication that you don't have a life? He disappears then comes back. Books room without any prior introduction drinks. Doesn't check with you on meeting dates and just picks a date and expects you to turn up. REALLY? Be careful how much you tolerate, you are teaching them how to you. Learn the word "BLOCK" and use it on this man. He's not worth shaving your legs for. Good luck.
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EmnEm123 - 01 Mar, 2022 - 03:56PM
@Sportster
In some ways I agree with you.
I think this guy is a total git and a user but as I've said before on here, even men may want to play away but when push comes to shove, they have second thoughts.
Nothing wrong with that, but be honest and kind when letting someone down.
If they take offence, I'm afraid that's too bad!
Everyone on here has to take the good with the bad.
1117169 - 01 Mar, 2022 - 02:23PM
@Enigma
To me he sounds as far away from being a "Player" as one can be. He sounds like a man who has never done anything like this before and is very unsure of what will happen and does not know how to deal with the etiquette or logistics and is therefore not handling it at all well. It also sounds like it would be a one off, and a not very pleasant experience for either party.
Enigma.. - 01 Mar, 2022 - 08:22AM
My dearā¦. Wake up and smell the bullshit (excuse the language).
Heās a player.
Personally Iād get rid. Stop communicating with him. Block if necessary. You are worth way more than that āinsert a few appropriate wordsā lol.
If after 2-3 weeks of messaging etcā¦ you havenāt exchanged phone numbers, photos and havenāt started making āmutualā arrangements to meet upā¦ move on.
Donāt let communication drag on for months.
There are to many players and time wasters on this site as it is. Iāll wish you all the best.
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