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1408586 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 11:34AM

I wouldn’t want to make too much of a connection before meeting… need to be detached enough still that if there’s no chemistry I can easily walk away!

1104299 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 11:31AM

For me if messages flow really easy and the conversation doesn’t become stilted it’s generally a good sign at first, then phone conversations, if you find yourself wondering where the time went after ending the call this is another tick in the box, it’s definitely possible to develop a connection way before the actual meet up! I wouldn’t meet without the ‘connection’!

1408586 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 11:24AM

Try reactivating your profile somethingnew. I think a hidden profile generally means we have found someone? A lot of women who are looking for a lover wouldn’t want to waste too much time talking to someone who already has one!

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somethingnew19780 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:55AM

connections can be formed initially online. you can get a feel of it fairly quickly.

I seem to keep coming across women, where I'm doing the questioning and get single word answers back. And i need to ask the next question and so on. Is it really hard to enhance the answer and maybe say, "what about you"

Someone who does show interest back, that is where the connection starts to happen.

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TCOO12 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:50AM

Connections are on different levels. A connection first through messaging, understanding and seeing if a next step is desired by both.
Then meeting in person and the words are enhanced by body language, expressions and tone of voice. Connection on another level.
Then the connection that builds further shouod a relationship follow.
Connections continue to evolve beyond that too.

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Son Of Loki - 27 Oct, 2023 - 10:02AM

I’ve just joined and got an alert about this flirt forum thingy?

Well what now lol?

OK so reading prior comments this appears to be a discussion area. A connection can be deeply felt online and then hopefully translates at the sausage shack near Yeovil.

Only kidding, I’ll treat you to at least a Whopper.

1529050 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 09:22AM

I agree with Becky, before I agree to meet anyone I need to get to know a bit about them first, and to see if there is that connection. Otherwise why would we waste time and meet.

I think quite early on with messages you can see if you have things in common, if you are on the same wavelength, both looking for the same thing and I think you can get the gist of that over messages, and then this can be confirmed or dismissed once you meet.

As Becky said the true connection will come only after you meet.

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1408586 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 08:57AM

Absolutely a true connection is only found by getting to know someone over time in person. I would however only meet someone who I felt some form of connection with over messaging first. I think it’s easy to rule out those who I would never be able to form a genuine connection with and therefore no point in meeting for a drink like this.

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