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Enigmatic Lady - 28 Apr, 2024 - 07:04AM

I suppose I’m luckier than most because my job allows me to stay overnight in hotels and for longer periods too. Two years ago I had an affair and we only had, at the time, daytime meets. Then an opportunity arose where we were able to spend a couple of nights away together. It was a disaster.
On the first night we were having dinner, he got drunk, as the evening wore on he became louder and louder. He was drawing unwelcome attention to us so we left. We returned to the room he fell into bed and I thought his voice was loud but his snoring was worse.
The next day we set out to explore the surrounding countryside but that was ruined by his mobile constantly ringing or pinging. Mainly calls and messages from his wife, kids and his work. The evening was a repeat of the evening before and we were asked to leave the restaurant.
After another sleepless night and an argument I decided I’d had enough. I packed my bags and left. Leaving him behind.
For all I know he’s still in Chester. We never spoke again

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Life is a beach - 28 Apr, 2024 - 12:40AM

You should only spend the night if it fits with your normal life.
Never do things that would raise suspicion.
Someone mentioned their IE as a distraction only, never spending overnight. We are all different. My IE is far more than a distraction for me. I would love to spend the night with him if I could.
My normal life doesn't call for nights away. As much as I would love to spend the night with him, I am unable to.
Don't take any risks, don't do anything out of the norm.
Taking unnecessary risks would ruin it all!

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1664597 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 02:23PM

It wasn't a physical problem.

It was a mental health issue.

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1408586 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 02:15PM

Is it in yet?

What was the issue?!

1664597 - 27 Apr, 2024 - 01:52PM

I did a weekend away with my IE. It was the beginning of the end of our relationship as a result.

The extended time together highlighted a single enormous incompatibility that had previously been hidden by the duration of daytime or evening meets.

Being together for 48hrs, it couldn't be suppressed for that period.

So think hard before making big changes.

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NinaOakley - 25 Apr, 2024 - 09:58PM

Boomer sweetheart, do keep up! These are excuses. It just so happens that there are at least a dozen higher education establishments littered up the country between my home town and that of my current gentleman friend.

To be honest I’m enthralled by any gentleman suitably qualified to teach me something new…they are getting so much harder to find.

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Boomer1514 - 25 Apr, 2024 - 08:21PM

NinaOakley

Have you got 'Hots for teacher"

Darkman262626 - 25 Apr, 2024 - 11:16AM

Staying over is much easier when you've got a lifestyle/job that already has overnight stays. I've had that for a long time, so it draws a lot less suspicion. Just do what works best for you.

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NinaOakley - 25 Apr, 2024 - 06:44AM

I have just got home wonderfully energised from a career development/training day/mid morning shag with my IE and announced I want to do another, career-related masters part time. That gives me 2 years of summer schools/meetings with a supervisor/compulsory f2f activities as I need them. Okay, I’ll have to do the ruddy masters but it’ll give me lots of excuses, too!

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NinaOakley - 25 Apr, 2024 - 06:36AM

Boomer, they are all reasons I’ve legitimately not been at home overnight. None of them provoked hubby’s suspicions.