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Should I or shouldn’t I?

Hi, my wife and are still very much in love and are actually still having good sex but we both feel there’s a little something missing. So, we have just recently started an open relationship and we’ve both newly joined IE in the last couple of weeks or so. We’re both looking for quite different things from IE but obviously ultimately it comes down to wanting to get intimate with someone other than each other.
My wife seems to be getting loads of attention but me, not so much.
My question is, do you think the fact that I’ve mentioned in my profile about being in an open relationship is putting a lot of ladies off.
Should I not mention it? Or is it something else?

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Bikerdude69 - 23 Jun, 2025 - 03:17PM

Im curious if your wife's looker i. Might drop her a message... 😁


YourSecretLover - 23 Jun, 2025 - 02:39PM

The woman always get more attention than the men. It's like honey to a bee.

You should be as open and honest as you want to be, I think honesty shines through on a profile.

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Recliff42 - 23 Jun, 2025 - 02:14PM

It seems to me that you are taking an honest approach in your profile and i would hope that others appreciate this.
A quetsion to think on is quantity or quality important? Lots of attention might be off putting and hard for her to find someone worth connecting with, equally you may find just one perfect playmate.
I know for me, I only wish to encounter one lady, there is a lot to be said about the right connection.

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LadyDe - 23 Jun, 2025 - 09:06AM

As I lot of you know already.. I’m in an Open Marriage. It’s not all ‘rose tinted glasses’ there have been times when ones had a good thing and another nothing for a while, ones had more freedom of meets, where the other had limited meets etc etc .. the most important thing to remember is not to let your real marriage slip.. there have been times when I’ve taken it too far and gone out for a meet in all the sexy seductive clothing (different for men as he just wears trousers/shirt etc) and he’s felt jealous, so a reign that in and actually now have a bit of a separate wardrobe… but without a doubt the life style has improved our marriage, monogamy for us isn’t natural… but the quick answer is yes to say you are as it shows you have freedom in meets etc ..

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Aim to please48 - 01 Aug, 2024 - 09:23AM

P99

Just your opinion, which you’re obviously entitled to but thankfully you don’t know me, my wife or our situation and how it actually helps many couples.
You just stay your happy self and I wish you all the happiness you deserve and hope you find that special someone to make you even happier XX


Paula99 - 28 Jul, 2024 - 02:04PM

ATP48…

Your relationship is the casualty…..

Leave the fantasy in your imagination

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Aim to please48 - 28 Jul, 2024 - 01:24PM

Paula99

I don’t really understand your comment.?? Yes there have been some tears for us both but all’s well and good.
Casualties?? X


Paula99 - 27 Jul, 2024 - 08:56PM

ATP48…

I think you have both realised that the fantasy is never the same as the reality…as most of us predicted… it all ended in tears…..as much as you ‘think ‘ you can reduce the casualties the true reality is ….HUMAN EMOTIONS ARE NOT TO BE MESSED WITH ….

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Aim to please48 - 27 Jul, 2024 - 12:48PM

Hi guys, a little update for you. The tables have turned.
I’ve actually found a very nice lady to have fun with and my wife is struggling a little too tie a man down.
Yes, there has been a lot of mixed emotions on both sides, tears have been shed but with plenty of communication and keeping things going together and still enjoying each other I think all’s good with us right now. Obviously things can change, dynamics change feeling and emotions can still get a little out of control but with the communication being the most important thing to get us through it the future looks good as far as I can see. XX

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Anabelle34 - 21 Jul, 2024 - 11:31PM

I think saying you are in an open relationship helps, as shows availability.
But in general, any online dating, stats show girls are more picky.

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