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1408586 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:47PM

It is possible (likely) that she will find sex outside your marriage and you won’t…

I think you need to make sure you’re comfortable with that before taking things further!

As a woman having an affair, a man in an open relationship with a good sex life where I would possibly be discussed in some form between the couple would be VERY off putting. But that’s just me

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Paula99 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:30PM

If your sex life is that good between you both …why are you looking for something more ..

Open relationships are a minefield …one of you you will be insecure/jealous …

My take on this ….I would never get involved with a couple who are ‘testing the waters’ ..

Good luck

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fmeeyes - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:55PM

It wouldn’t personally bother me but I guess affairs demand discretion and secrecy and you don’t really need either, perhaps some people consider that risky? Also, I think women typically come off better on these sites and in open relationships from what I’ve seen and experienced. Perhaps it doesn’t need to be on your profile and can be disclosed to someone you have been speaking with. Don’t expect that she’s flooded with great offers either - I also am inundated and most don’t warrant a reply.
Also, as someone who has been in your wife’s position in terms of desire but with a husband unwilling to open the relationship - swinging is not going to satisfy that need.

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1680841 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:11PM

If this were me in the same situation, I'd be asking the wife for her feedback on the guys she's attracting then base my profile on that feedback. This is after all in both your interests that this work.

Yes, it's a bit sneaky but hey: "...never look a gift horse....."

You potentially have first hand experience of good/poor behaviour from what remains a male rich environment (we've all seen the ratio counter on here!!!). It's just like studying the odds and, if done properly should return a better hit rate for you.

You're welcome 😜

Good luck😎

ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 12:03PM

Definitely join a swinging site as a couple as suggested by sl4m!

1669370 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:54AM

I agree with slimguy321, despite what the figures show for the balance of men to women, some of the women even mention in their profiles that they are inundated with so many messages from men so they might not answer yours or even read it. I would work on the assumption that if you send 20 messages you might get one reply if you're lucky.

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secretlover4me - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:53AM

Wouldn't you both both be better joining a swinging site together then you meet like minded people and it wouldn't be so one sided as I would agree that genuine women on here are probably swamped with emails etc

Slimguy321 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:20AM

There are many many guys for every genuine lady on IE so don't be surprised if you're not successful. You're wife won't have the same problem - just speaking from personal experience though. I wish you luck.

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Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:10AM

The main reason for the open relationship is because my wife want’s a much more dominant side to sex, think of it as she wants her own Mr Grey.
She knows I’m not that person, that’s not me and to try and pretend to be that way doesn’t/wont work.

1671533 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:55AM

I would imagine the thought that you might still be having good sex with your wife is a turn off. If she told me she was still having sex, I wouldn't be interested, as I wouldn't be able to feel as intimate, or feel she might be comparing me with you, or even sharing notes. On the other hand, a threesome or foursome would change the dynamics and make it much more interesting for everyone ;)

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