Should I or shouldn’t I?
Hi, my wife and are still very much in love and are actually still having good sex but we both feel there’s a little something missing. So, we have just recently started an open relationship and we’ve both newly joined IE in the last couple of weeks or so. We’re both looking for quite different things from IE but obviously ultimately it comes down to wanting to get intimate with someone other than each other.
My wife seems to be getting loads of attention but me, not so much.
My question is, do you think the fact that I’ve mentioned in my profile about being in an open relationship is putting a lot of ladies off.
Should I not mention it? Or is it something else?
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Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 04:44PM
Luminescent, I literally took it out only this morning because of some advice from someone else.
I would let anyone know who actually responds to my messages within the first couple of replies.
1682268 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 03:59PM
Aim to please 48
Why does your profile not mention a single word of all this? Youve put up a profile as if youre just one man looking for one woman for an affair?
If you connect with someone, when are you proposing to spring it on her that "actually me and the missus are experimenting with swinging and you sound ideal".
Good luck with that one.
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1683179 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 03:39PM
I would say be honest in your profile, it may not attract lots of attention, but it will attract the right attention, and therefor the right person.
I am not to everyone's taste - yet, over the years, there is always one person for whom I am exactly what they are looking for, and vice versa.
You also have to remember - women could put nothing in their profile , no words at all, and be bombarded.....it's not a reflection on you, it is sadly a reflection on (not all) men...
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Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 03:10PM
Enigma, yes you’re probably right. Unfortunately I’m the fool that suggested the idea and as I said when we were having the conversation I’d rather have some of her than none. We’ve been together over 26yrs now and she’s my best and actually very sad to say it, but only real friend. I think I may well be stuck between a rock and a hard place. If I asked her to stop with IE etc she would but unfortunately and sadly that would be the beginning of the end.
Enigma.. - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:51PM
@Aim to please48
I’m a plain speaker.
Just seems to me that your wife wants her cake and eat it.
Regardless of how you feel emotionally etc…
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Enigma.. - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:32PM
@Paula99
I totally agree with your post.
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Paula99 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:31PM
Aim to please48…
It does sound as if it’s kind of all one sided in reality and I appreciate that you are trying to ‘help’ her find the type of sex she prefers but in the end who is kidding who ?
Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 02:06PM
Hey Paula99,
Totally appreciate your feedback and yes, we’ve not even got as far as sleeping with anyone else yet and I’ve felt all sorts of unpleasant feelings of what you describe. Think my wife had to but she’s in pretty deep now and loving the attention she’s getting.
The reason for us making this decision is because my wife wants what I’m not comfortable giving her, hard spankings etc, not me at all and it’s something she really wants to explore. So actually it was my idea to open the relationship, to make her happy and I think to actually in the end save our marriage. I know, sounds crazy.
She thinks it would do me good to explore a bit with other women to possibly give me more confidence etc and ultimately help in our own relationship.
To be honest I’m pretty much at the point of just letting her get on with it and me deleting my account. I’m not fussed about sleeping with other women.
IE for me is basically just trying to keep my mind occupied and away from the situation.
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 01:47PM
feyes - 12:55PM
In this OP's case, both are willing therefore they are very much suited for swinging.
I also agree with P99's comment ... been there, done it, got the Tshirt ... never again.
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