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1630883 - 07 Nov, 2023 - 07:41PM

I’d love to hear people’s thoughts. Likewise, it’s my first time trying something like this. Not entirely sure what the best approach is. I’ve been pretty forward in my profile but perhaps I should be a little more reserved? All suggestions are appreciated

Big Ed - 07 Nov, 2023 - 07:13PM

I hope it does, I feel both frustrated that I don't quite get the hang of this, and some guilt for being here

Roxy Gee - 07 Nov, 2023 - 06:40PM

Yes it gets easier as you get into a groove that means you can effectively partition Life A from Life B x Just relax and have fun is my advice but always take care to be very careful xx

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boav91 - 06 Nov, 2023 - 05:51PM

For me the first time I met someone other than my wife I was feeling very guilty but it has got easier from that side. If you are careful then it is possible to lead those two lives but you really do have to take care not to let the two things merge.

If you are the type of person who gets racked with guilt maybe have a real think before taking the plunge. DOnt do it if you think it will blow everything up. It should make it better.

For me meeting and having a successful IE has been really fulfilling as well so there are real benefits to this too.

These forums are full of people with good advice how to do this safely.

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1475171 - 06 Nov, 2023 - 05:33PM

I think it can depend on whether you are strong minded to be able to deal with the guilt you may experience. I guess when and if you do jump in you will find out, and like someone else said if the affair stops will you handle that ok?

1631263 - 06 Nov, 2023 - 04:37PM

Also if you have had a successful affair and it ends be ready for the ‘loss’ that comes with it

^^ this in spades, you really don’t have anyone to talk to about the “loss”, most certainly not your spouse

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Paula99 - 06 Nov, 2023 - 03:43PM

Does it get easier …

Yes and No …

Yes because you have done it before … are emotionally mature and can put aside your family life for your escape time ..no guilt trips..great sex/ pure lust ..and if you’re lucky you can make a new friend and a lover 👍

No ..because once you have done this there is no going back ..and it’s no good you wishing you hadn’t strayed ..
Also if you have had a successful affair and it ends be ready for the ‘loss’ that comes with it ..and then finding another person that is ‘ similar’ is not easy…you will compare but no 2 people are the same ..

It’s over to you …happy shopping 😁

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LJ_looking_for_extra - 06 Nov, 2023 - 01:59PM

I personally don’t think so

Inneedofsomething - 06 Nov, 2023 - 01:42PM

I have no idea, but let me know if you work it out

Redfirefox - 10 Mar, 2023 - 09:09PM

Wow this is an old thread. Very Corona virus related.
But I’ve been reading these comments to pick up tips as a newbie myself. I think all newbies need to read some of these comments & advice.
Make sure you’re in the right frame of mind and can handle the emotions that come with having an affair.
For me personally I will have to detach myself from emotions somewhat and remind myself constantly WHY I’m here. Can I continue as I was before I joined ie and be content?
My answer is no. So my decision is an easier one.