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Sharpe100 - 29 Jan, 2021 - 08:24PM

I do get bored with a profile that has 1000 word of criteria about what a woman will accept in a man. FFS, we are human!

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1Risso - 29 Jan, 2021 - 03:16PM

I find the same.
Just a line or 2 for the first message. And if no thank you is said. Please accept it

1241471 - 29 Jan, 2021 - 03:12PM

Hertsguy36 - 27 Jan, 2021 - 12:24PM
It’s not always as simple as it should be. Quite a few guys will see a polite ‘no thanks’ as a conversation opener, simply because it’s a response. After further attempts at ending the contact, we have no choice but to ignore further messages, which then leads to abuse. Unfortunately this may be why a lot of women choose not to engage unless they are very certain that your profile attracts them. I feel bad about ignoring messages, but a few nasty people have made it not worth the risk.

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rarity23 - 28 Jan, 2021 - 04:19PM

Ladies if you are genuinely looking for someone, I would much rather receive a nice intro, than a VK, or a "fancy a chat" message.

Obviously if you are the other end of the country what is the point sending VKs !!

Don't leave all the chasing to us men !!

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ExoticOrchid - 27 Jan, 2021 - 01:43PM

Hertsguy36 - 27 Jan, 2021 - 12:24PM

"A polite reply, no thanks or
Ignore and delete"

Speaking for myself, always a polite no thanks reply .
No need to be rude, not unless they are rude to you.

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Hertsguy36 - 27 Jan, 2021 - 12:24PM

Can I ask the ladies what the general consensus is on replying to guys opening messages? Obviously this only applies to messages from men who you have no interest in.

A polite reply, no thanks or
Ignore and delete

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ExoticOrchid - 27 Jan, 2021 - 10:43AM

Personally, it hinges on the profile ... no matter how short or long the introduction message is, if the profile doesn't appeal, end of! However, I will always reply politely.

ScepticalHusband - 26 Jan, 2021 - 11:33PM

I presume those who like the joy of text will read and enjoy a well written introduction, and those who are here for a purely physical thing won't. Personally I wouldn't be interested in a one-line message because I enjoy getting to know someone for a time. What I guess I'm saying is that length matters - if a recipient likes the length you're offering, they'll respond.
Sigh. Why does it always come down to size?

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RealAffair - 26 Jan, 2021 - 10:13PM

Hertsguy36 - 26 Jan, 2021 - 05:42PM

It is very difficult for a guy to get it right here.

That's correct because there's no one size fits all.

You should send the message you want to send and see what happens. If she likes your message (long or short) you can pick it up from there. If not, move on.

There's also a huge element of luck or more accurately "Sliding Doors" moments too. If you're timing is off, probably through no fault of yours, then the moment will pass and you never even knew🙈

It does work though, even if it can be annoying at times 😃

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1433812 - 26 Jan, 2021 - 08:08PM

Hello how are you