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1421217 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 05:54PM

Only your feathers seem ruffled sigma, my opinion is just that mine , I stand by what I said , and why apologise , no ones been rude or personally attacked . Your opinion is just as valid as mine . They differ x

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ClassyLady77 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 04:30PM

It’s a fine line.. if it feels natural to you then enjoy it. If you have to work at it then forget it.. things like not chatting at weekends is normal.

Met someone last year, messaged every day and seemed to be going well, it was natural and we talked about more than just sex, then we met.. (only for a walk) no chemistry, he was dull, scared of own shadow and never offered to buy me lunch even though I brought the Prosecco.. I obviously attract tight arses. 😂

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Sigmaguy - 02 Apr, 2021 - 04:08PM

Barretta we’ve spoken before so I’ll be respectful...

You seem to be having a go at me for 1: Doing some research and 2: For repeating something I may have said some time ago...

I usually apologise, but sorry Ms Forum ‘Repeated word’ Prefect... I had no idea that simply offering some practical advice worthy of such negativity.

I’ll make sure I go back and revue all the comments I’ve made in the past so as not to ruffle your feathers....

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1421217 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 07:06AM

Sigma, you may have mentioned those words a few times 😁, and we all meet ars£&@el in life

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Teresa di Vicenzo - 01 Apr, 2021 - 10:00PM

coolhand77
Interesting comment about the ‘something morbid’ scenario. It’s something I’ve thought of (both my IE and I are in our 50s; you never know), I’ve a very good, trusted girlfriend who has my IEs contact details to notify him if I was to drop dead - or whatever. To be honest, I’m pretty confident my IE does not have a similar arrangement with a trusted person. I think I’ll pursue that, I couldn’t stand him just ‘disappearing’.

Similarly, a few years ago a previous IE I had (10 years older than me), was worried he’d die ‘in the act’. He instructed me I was to simply leave him in the hotel bed and let the maid discover him at some point. Harsh ..

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Sigmaguy - 01 Apr, 2021 - 09:39PM

Baretta,

Re-love bombing.

I had no idea what it was until a woman I dated told me about it. When I researched it it explained the behaviour of a particular woman I had dated and a girl I had dated in my 20’s. In both cases the behaviour was pretty much as described.

The word Narcissist is used for lots of weird behaviour, I think we all have a bit of a narcissist buried inside us. But it’s real, I am aware of it and the knowledge has protected me from a couple of toxic people since.

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1424835 - 01 Apr, 2021 - 04:44PM

All depends on the stage of the relationship - in the early days there’s always a risk of overdoing things and running out of steam...so I try to not go overboard with the messages/kiks, but obviously as things mature then there’s a natural rhythm. I don’t think a few days without contact is much to worry about, separate lives and all that, has to be a bit of understanding that circumstances may not allow for easy contact.

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1436059 - 01 Apr, 2021 - 02:15PM

It depends on the kind of relationship you have. If we are strictly fuck buddies, we make contact to agree a meeting. If we have a friendship where we check on each other occasionally then it would be rude not to respond to a text (for more than a few hours). I'm busy and no matter how busy someone is, they can always afford a few mins to respond to a text! Define your relationship and stick to the arrangement.

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ExoticOrchid - 01 Apr, 2021 - 02:03PM

coolhand77 - 12:44PM

This topic has been discussed a few times before although I don't think there was anything conclusive ... I would say it depends very much on each person's circumstances as well as the nature/length of the IE "liaison" ... could give a trusted friend the email address or mobile number ... or leave a sealed envelope with one's solicitor in case of death? 🤷‍♀️

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1352053 - 01 Apr, 2021 - 12:44PM

Bit of an aside and morbid perhaps. Contact by secure e-mail is best but suspect many each have their IEs mobile number although do not text without prior agreement. Has anyone thought of how to manage the situation when something tragic might happen to one half of the equation? The temptation from the other half would be to call/text, eventually?

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