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TheLancsRose - 06 Jun, 2021 - 10:19PM

It depends on the intensity of your relationship. If you are meeting every week or more often I'd say at least daily contact. If you go for weeks between meetings then there may be less communication. In the end thought it really depends on what you are both happy with. If your needs are not being met you need to say so.

1386735 - 06 Jun, 2021 - 12:06PM

I always say if someone is thinking about you and wants to message you, then they will...regardless of their situation. Most people are on their phones a fair bit so a quick message just to say whatever is not that difficult. If they are interested they will find a way. Simples...😁

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Relaxed Vibes - 06 Jun, 2021 - 10:28AM

Exactly what CattusNippus says. No one is that busy that they can’t sneak a message or two out if they’re really interested.

And like ExoticOrchid says, it’s always very telling to see the level of interest either wane or continue after an intimate meet.

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1360266 - 06 Jun, 2021 - 10:19AM

I’ve chatted with guys who will communicate daily and then some who can only message between the hours of 9-5 Mon to Fri. Either way I would respect their situation.
However, if or ever, 😉 I meet someone, I’d prefer regular contact so the latter wouldn’t be ideal.

1455097 - 06 Jun, 2021 - 07:37AM

This is definitely an interesting topic.
On a personal level, I like a constant chat. Whilst I appreciate that it doesn’t always work like that given the constraints of what this relationship is, it’s about creating a fluidity, interest and desire. When you spark with someone, all of a sudden, I want the conversation, laughs, flirtiness and naughtiness. The occasional message every few days doesn’t really cut the mustard IMO, if you like someone, surely it’s not that challenging to find 5 mins out of your day to let it be known?!

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Curvy4u - 06 Jun, 2021 - 12:07AM

Weekly

1449137 - 05 Jun, 2021 - 11:02PM

I just think this is unique for every 'relationship'. One constant is that, you are actually able to raise the topic with your lover/f buddy and have an honest chat about it.

To answer your question.... yes, they have lost interest. You may be contacted again by them when they feel horny if thats the case you are nothing but an easy release.

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1117169 - 05 Jun, 2021 - 04:20PM

@Gallowglass666

You have it sussed!

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ExoticOrchid - 05 Jun, 2021 - 10:54AM

I'm not needy or demanding so quite relaxed about it all ... there are some I know well enough to message first and some I only reply to when they message me ... as has been said, it very much depends on the individuals and their circumstances too ... I've had everything from many messages an hour/day to a few messages every other day to an email every few days ... also depends on the kind of relationship you have with them.

One thing I will say though ... in my book, the "keepers" are the ones who message even more often AFTER a hotel meet!!!

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1455907 - 04 Jun, 2021 - 11:06AM

As much as I like contact - I am also aware that whilst I have time to message etc the other party might not be able to, each person is different. I am of the ilk if want to message I will, nice to get a response immediately but no drama if I do not. However the height of rudeness is ghosting - it is such a cowardly and awful thing to do - even just a quick - sorry no more contact is better than the utter rudeness of ghosting

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