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1459408 - 13 Oct, 2021 - 11:34PM

Vanilla caramel hazelnut Armond coconut Latte espresso (there’s no place here for a flat white!!!)So what taste do you want in your passionate erotic sex? I would say all of it experiment enjoy it do something different. If you’ve both built up a good relationship then there should be a trust and a Confidence to have a go at most things when it comes to sex!!!!! If you’re experimenting with one type of kinky thing and you both enjoy great….If however you have a go at something else in the kinky department and oh dear we both didn’t like that or it didn’t go the way you planned it to go have a laugh about it!!!….it’s no big deal it’s sex.!!!!! we can laugh about it as well….. as the philosopher Plato wrote hundreds of years ago? (if it don’t turn you on step back and leave it alone) The elements can play a part in sex?!!!! Thunder and lightning a heavy rain storm get the ravishing going with that lot going on behind you ( just need the latest weather forecast) You’ll be indoors

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Karen1965 - 13 Oct, 2021 - 09:31PM

My infatuation comes from literotica and the erotic mind control archive.

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Donald694 - 03 Aug, 2021 - 12:31PM

BDSM ranges among:-
B/D - bondage and discipline
D/S - dominance and submissiveness
S/M - sadomasochism

Conventional romantic falling in love is a co-submissiveness. Alternation in the role of dominant or definition of responsibilities come to be needed.

Consensual bondage and discipline may intensify things, but the enthusiasm may be temporary and there might be a backlash if exploitation happens or is felt to happen.

Sadomasochism is difficult to reconcile with "Do as you would be done by."

orchid1967 - 22 Jul, 2021 - 02:36PM

At teper_1961
This is well thought out! (apologies I don't mean to come across as condescending). I suspect you meant to say that it can start with a bit of spanking (if thats your thing) through the various soft Dom/sub roles through to heavy BDSM etc is that right?
S&M covers a wide range of activities and I agree with Zyphod, having an affairs does give you the opportunity to push the boundaries as far as YOU (meaning yourself) want to go. If that's simply being blind folded and having an ice cube rubbed over your naked body (OMG that felt so good by a guy I met on here - especially in this hot weather - WOW!) or full on heavy Bondage and pain play, its down to the individual.

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1444888 - 21 Jul, 2021 - 08:21AM

There are various types of S&M and it depends on your interruption. If 'Vanilla' is a loving touch, romantic talk, kissing, oral, penetration and masturbation, then 'kink' could refer to anything that bends away from the straight and narrow.
The most common definition comes under the umbrella of BDSM. This includes a wide range of activities from light spanking and the Dom/sub role through to the heavy bondage and pain play.
Fantasy and role play would be another form of kink.
Fetish's would be another (feet, shoes, rubber)
Voyeurism and exhibitionism, dogging would be another
and the last group I can think of is group sex (threesome's, foursomes, moresomes)
S&M doesn't have to be the things you watch in films and definitely not what you see in porn sites!

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1100888 - 20 Jul, 2021 - 09:16PM

I think in an affair you are more likely to want to push the boundaries, There is no sleeping on the sofa if you ask the other half to try something out of their comfort zone. With an affair we are more likely to forgive and carry on. After all and affair is a bit of a selfish fantasy escape from the normal and vanilla.

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1463136 - 20 Jul, 2021 - 03:56PM

I watched some videos )granted it was on some dodgy porn sites) of S and M just to find out what it was about. To be honest all I saw was girls being slapped a lot and not looking as if they were having a very good time of things. I’m not judging but if this is how it is )and I’m sure there is more to it) then thanks but I will leave well alone.

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1458097 - 20 Jul, 2021 - 03:23PM

Lovely reading the mixed feelings and comments when it comes to kink and bdsm.
I've played in the bdsm fetish scene and there have been good experiences and unfortunately bad ones but if people are willing to explore, then why not x

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MindHer - 15 Jul, 2021 - 03:22PM

I think it's a broad church. Reading through the replies on this - it's true, there are sites where you are more likely to find "real" practitioners. However, just as a subset of the "vanilla" population is married and seeking an affair, so is a subset of the D/s population. That subset is more likely to find what they need here than on a site such as fetlife.

I'd also suggest that if you are a person with a kink in a vanilla marriage, you are more likely to have an affair than someone who is vanilla and has a vanilla partner. Might explain the ratios that, I agree, are higher than might be expected.

Another point that someone has made and I agree with - there are a lot of fakes on this site, and a number of people claiming to be practitioners who really aren't. However, there are also a lot of people claim to have a few more (or a few less) inches in height or width - not sure it's any more than that.

Take care!

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Tanyaishere1 - 15 Jul, 2021 - 12:17PM

I think a bit of variety is great, as long as consensual.

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