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Chezley - 04 Jul, 2021 - 08:13PM

Curious980

You got that correct. And?

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MatureWorcsBBW - 04 Jul, 2021 - 08:04PM

Teresa di Vicenzo

I agree with you about some men suggesting it because they feel they have to most to prove, possibly.

I tend to think they're mostly total amateurs and chancers with almost no clue whatsoever, except that they think they want the complete opposite of what their current partner offers.

Most would almost certainly run a mile when faced with a woman who actually knows what she's doing.

That's actually the bit I like.
Making them beg me to stop because they can't handle it.

😂 😂

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1458849 - 04 Jul, 2021 - 07:22PM

Chezley , I’m relatively new here , and have read most of the lockdown posts , what a vile twisted bitter man you are , why

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Chezley - 04 Jul, 2021 - 07:00PM

Teresa

Absolute codswallop from start to end.

Better go back to your 'previous life'.

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Teresa di Vicenzo - 04 Jul, 2021 - 12:57PM

S&M .. Hmmm a tricky one isn’t it ..?

In my opinion, and from my own experience from being on here, those who claim to favour the S&M antics appear to be the ones who feel they have the most to prove. It’s like they feel that they’ll come across as being ‘cooler’, ‘sexier’ and ‘edgier’ by claiming it to be their ‘thing’. I hope for own sake that they really are experienced and that they know what they’re doing; there is so much more to S&M than just tying to bedposts and spanking. It’s definitely more of a psychological than physical thing. There has to be so much trust involved, a big ask for a brand new relationship formed online.

I dabbled in such a thing a thousand years ago in a previous life with someone very special, so I do know what I’m talking about, before I’m shouted down!

But is it now passé ..? Probably not, but I doubt very much that every one of those who claim to want to have that kind of relationship really know what they’re talking about.

In m

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1447655 - 04 Jul, 2021 - 11:08AM

Had this conversation with another member recently. A certain female columnist in the Times has written very amusingly kind of 'ode' to the "much under-rated 'classic shag'", suggesting it was given National Trust status, and I do see her point.

Any yet, maybe, like other addictive things, what satisfies the compulsion first doesn't continue to do so, and something stronger is needed? I don't know. I think in a community like this (and it is called 'illicit' encounters, rather than 'romantic encounters) there is a good amount of people to whom sex is something of a fascination, a compulsion. Maybe power play is a stop-off or even destination as part of that?

I don't have the answer, but it is very interesting...

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zephyr666 - 04 Jul, 2021 - 09:53AM

I find B&D to be more prominent - to the point where I find myself having to say I’m not interested in D/s dynamics, because of the disproportionate number of people who are into dominance (or looking for submissive-types).

1320953 - 03 Jul, 2021 - 09:46PM

If the sex is Consensual , what does it matter ? Aren’t we are all adults ? If it’s not for you then say a polite no thank you.

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Chezley - 03 Jul, 2021 - 09:23PM

Yud

The usual sputtering from the committee of village ladies.

You are unable to tell us what actually does go on in an S&M relationship, because you don't know. So put a sock in it.

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1386735 - 03 Jul, 2021 - 12:10PM

Eurgh S & M, some men just don’t have a clue. A lot think they are the new Mr Grey, but they really have no idea, plus the ones who spout on their profiles about being Dom and wanting a sub, normally turn out to be midgets with no sexiness about them at all.

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