Should I or shouldn’t I?
Hi, my wife and are still very much in love and are actually still having good sex but we both feel there’s a little something missing. So, we have just recently started an open relationship and we’ve both newly joined IE in the last couple of weeks or so. We’re both looking for quite different things from IE but obviously ultimately it comes down to wanting to get intimate with someone other than each other.
My wife seems to be getting loads of attention but me, not so much.
My question is, do you think the fact that I’ve mentioned in my profile about being in an open relationship is putting a lot of ladies off.
Should I not mention it? Or is it something else?
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Jul, 2024 - 11:04PM
sl4m - 09:39PM
Indeed you are correct in what you say. It would appear that those who have never been have certain perceptions about these venues which are obviously wrong.
As for this particular OP's "open relationship" I am with Life is a Beach ... how is it open when it is one sided and the OP is terrified of losing his wife so he's just going along with it. It is obviously not "open" like LadyDe's marriage.
Having first read the thread and going by what was in it, I commented. Then the OP started commenting and totally changed the scenario. 🤷🏻♀️
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FluffyClouds - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:34PM
EmnEm -
I've admitted to being an OP on the forum. You must have missed that one. You thought the OP for my question 'must be a man'...I did find it amusing though
Life is a beach - 04 Jul, 2024 - 10:14PM
Aim to please48,
Loads of good advice from many of the ladies, Becky, Fluffy, Orchid, Paula, Enigma, who I know are not new to this.
Your wife seems to have her cake and eating it whilst you are left with nothing...
I know it was your idea but you really are not enjoying trying to find someone else in your 'open relationship'
Your decision means she is satisfying her needs. Is it really an open relationship?
Are you interested in finding an IE for yourself? Or, are you just giving into her?
You should be honest in your profile. Do revert back that you are in an open relationship. Personally, like some old hands here, I wouldn't go near a man doing that, but some would. I would appreciate honesty.
I am sorry to say this but this is not looking good for you.
I don't wish it, I will never want it, in my view, an open relationship should be mutual. Yours seems one way.
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LadyDe - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:58PM
@Aim to please 48
I’m in a very similar situation to you, me and my husband have an Open Marriage, he has his GF and I have my IE and yes we have a great relationship and regular good sex etc etc…
Sorry I left the Forum because there are a lot of females on here, the few that comment all the time, they don’t understand and clearly never will … life is like a box of chocolates ..
Have fun and as long as you both communicate then it’s all great
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Aim to please48 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:48PM
Believe what you want, but everything I’ve posted is true and from the heart. As one lady said to me in a chat, it’s easy to come across as something our not in text but meeting in person is a whole different ballgame.
I’m honest and upfront and try to love life. This whole situation is so damn weird and hard to get my head around. I’ve either just got to ride it out or, well I don’t know what.
Anyway, whatever. It is what it is.
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EmnEm123 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:42PM
My last point on this nonsense.
There are lots of members who have been here for a long time, when have any of you seen someone admitting to being the OP of the questions on the forum?
I never have!!!
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secretlover4me - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:39PM
Hey
Not that I'm an expert in the swinging world but I think you can go to venues and then go do your own thing so you aren't actually watching what each other get up to. At least you are both doing the same thing at the same time. Otherwise one could be home while the other is out on a date wondering what's going on!
Your situation most definitely isn't the norm on here
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EmnEm123 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:29PM
Obviously if the person is posting or messaging they are real!
But is what they are posting truthful?
Finding it hard to believe, whether the supposed "wife" has suddenly chipped in.
He's claiming to be the quiet, shy type who really loves his wife and would prefer that neither of them were here.
Now he's posting that she wants a good hard spanking and fucking. Doesn't seem credible.
Funbunny48 You're right it is up to me and I don't believe it!
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1408586 - 04 Jul, 2024 - 09:12PM
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been messaged by the OP after posting on this thread so I assume he must be real?!
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